Everything happens to everybody sooner or later if there is time enough. ~ George Bernard Shaw
Change – Such a small word for such a big meaning. We all experience change every day, mostly in small ways that we barely, if ever, even notice. For instance, I use a stapler for work so rarely, (everyone on my team knows it’s a Big Sin to use staples instead of paper clips), that the first time I ran out, a full three years after I started working at the company, it surprised me. The other day, as I was washing dishes, I noticed my hands were much more wrinkled than I’d have sworn they were the day before, yet of course they’d been gradually aging with the rest of my body.
Then there are the sudden Major Life Changes that seem to happen in a split second: after twenty years of loyal service we learn we’re among a hoard of others laid off from work, suddenly finding ourselves without a job; we learn of a close family members’ death; the bank tells us our grace period for our mortgage is up and we’re suddenly homeless…..though there are but a handful of Major Life Changes, there’s a reason they’re called “Major”.
I have always believed things happen for a reason, even though it could be years before we know what that reason is (sometimes we never know). But now I’m a little closer to understanding, or maybe I should say believing, that these changes – both small and large – are not coincidental, that instead they’re ingrained into our “Life Plan” before we ever take our first breath.
Sure, we all see those wrinkles now and then and are mostly unconcerned because we know that aging is inevitable. But how often must we face a Major Life Change? I Googled that, certain there would be an average number per lifespan, but the only results were mainly lists of how often we change careers in our lives, (approximately seven). Apparently Major Life Changes vary from person to person so much there simply isn’t an average number. However, I did find an interesting site on the subject – Manifest Your Potential, which includes articles such as finding your bliss, how to discover yourself, making sense of wisdom, etc. I perused a few of the articles and look forward to learning more.
This is where I am right now: at 43-years-old I’m essentially starting my life all over again and attempting to learn not only what I enjoy about life, (aside from spending time with my sons and writing), but also who I truly am. Although the idea of starting over in general is a bit overwhelming, (to say the least), I am doing my best to view this Major Life Change as an opportunity to “grow into myself”, and I pray I teach my children, through example, that exploring what we enjoy doing, discovering who we really are, can be as exciting as it is frightening, hopefully more so.
If you’re comfortable with sharing, I’d love to know what you feel has been the greatest Major Life Change for you thus far. Whether or not you share specifically what that change was, did it feel like the end of the world only to end up being a blessing in disguise? How do you feel you handled the change: with negativity or as an opportunity to improve your life? Your words of wisdom are encouraged – they may very well help someone who happens to stumble upon this post.
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